🔥 The Conversation Gets Real — And More Unfiltered
What do men really want in a woman… once the surface-level answers are out of the way?
In Part 2, the conversation goes deeper — and a lot more honest.
The panel moves past general preferences and gets into the real tension points in modern dating: sex, expectations, emotional roles, and the gap between what people say they want… versus how they actually show up.
This isn’t polished.
This is real dialogue.
In Part 1 of our #UnderstandingMen series, Tonya Buford brings together a mixed panel of men and women for an honest, unfiltered conversation about attraction, relationships, and the traits men say matter most — while women respond in real time.
This conversation is part of a bigger mission for Tonya.As the creator and moderator of Beyond the Profile: Swipe Less. Connect More, Tonya created this video series because she believes too many people are dating through assumptions, social media noise, trauma, and surface-level expectations — without truly understanding one another. Her goal is to create a space where real people can have the conversations that are often avoided, so viewers can make better choices in dating, relationships, and who they give their heart to.Because when we better understand ourselves — and each other — we date better.
Join the conversation below: Do you agree with the panel? What do you think men really want in a woman?
🎙️ Why This Conversation Matters
Beyond the Profile: Swipe Less. Connect More. isn’t about giving you rehearsed answers — it’s about exposing the truth behind dating dynamics that most people avoid talking about.
Created by Tonya Buford, this series exists to challenge the narratives shaping modern relationships.
Because right now, too many people are:
• Saying one thing but doing another
• Building relationships on perception instead of reality
• Influenced more by social media than real-life experience
• Struggling to align expectations with actual behavior
👉 This platform is about cutting through that
👉 Having conversations that most people are thinking — but not saying
👉 Creating clarity so people can move smarter in dating
Because clarity changes everything.
🎙️ Meet the Panel
Kevin Watts
A U.S. Army veteran with 26 years of service, Kevin brings a grounded, life-experienced perspective on relationships, responsibility, and what truly matters over time. Now working with the Department of Homeland Security, he speaks from both personal and lived experience.
📲 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/moorish19
Mary Jo Martinez (Date Doctor DC)
Founder of Date Doctor DC, Mary Jo creates real-life dating experiences that help singles step away from apps and into authentic connection. Through curated events and social experiences, she’s redefining how people meet and build chemistry in real life. If your in the Washington DC Area! ✨Her Next DC Dating Live Event is July 18, 2026 Grab your tickets today: https://bit.ly/483yMRQ
📲 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/DateDoctorDC
📲 TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@date.doctor.dc
👉DC Dating Live Tickets: https://bit.ly/483yMRQ 👈
Lorenzo Deloatch
An educator and mentor based in Montgomery County, Lorenzo brings a thoughtful and disciplined perspective rooted in growth, structure, and self-development. His passion for mentorship and personal excellence shapes his views on relationships and accountability.
📲 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/Mrdeloatchjr
Rochelle Renee (The Single Mingle DMV)
Founder of The Single Mingle DMV, Rochelle has built a thriving community focused on real connections, leading to multiple marriages and meaningful relationships. Her work centers on creating spaces where singles can meet with intention.
📲 Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/msrochellerenee
https://www.instagram.com/thesinglemingledmv
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/thesinglemingledmv
Website: https://www.thesinglemingledmv.com/
Dr. Angel Brathwaite, LCSW-C, LICSW
A licensed therapist with over 20 years of experience, Dr. Angel specializes in trauma, relationships, and emotional wellness. As a certified sex therapist and clinical director, she brings depth, psychology, and real-world expertise to the conversation.
📲 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/skinfolktherapy/
TikTok: https://bit.ly/4rU0HLf
Facebook: https://bit.ly/4lIAOg5
🔥 5 KEY TAKEAWAYS (FOR SHOW NOTES)
1. Sexual Compatibility Isn’t Optional — It’s Foundational
The panel made it clear: ignoring sexual compatibility can create major issues later. It’s not just physical — it impacts trust, connection, and long-term satisfaction.
2. Standards vs. Strategy — Know the Difference
Some “standards” are actually reactions to past experiences. If you’re not careful, you may be protecting yourself… while also blocking real connection.
3. Social Media Has Distorted Dating Expectations
What people think they want is often influenced by what they see online — not what actually works in real relationships.
4. You Can’t Fake Alignment Forever
Trying to fit what someone wants instead of being honest upfront will always catch up. Eventually, the real you shows up — and that’s where things either build… or break.
5. Real Conversations Expose Real Truths
When men and women sit down and speak honestly — without filters — it becomes obvious: a lot of the disconnect isn’t lack of desire… it’s lack of understanding.
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